Alright, repeat after me: "I AM NOT A PORN STAR."
Most of us learn about how to have sex from watching porn. The problem with that is: PORN ISN'T REAL LIFE.
In real life you have to prepare your bottom for sex. You can't just slam you cock up in there like they do on your favorite porn site, or the two of you may just end up in the emergency room with a very embarrassing story for the ER doc. You need to respect and communicate with him, so you both have a good time.
You need to take your time and get your bottom to relax before you go inside.
First, start by massaging his hole with a well lubricated finger, and then when he is ready for you, gently slide one finger up inside.
If he's having trouble taking your finger, pull out and wait a couple minutes, lube up some more, and try again. You can tell him to bear down a little and try and push his hole out, and that actually will help you get inside.
After you get one finger in, you can then add a second one. Usually prepping him with 2 fingers is enough before sliding your well lubricated condom-clad cock inside, but if you're really big, you may need to do a 3rd finger first.
Make sure your finger nails are cut short so there's no sharp edges!
If you take your time and get him to relax at the beginning, you'll have a lot more fun later when things really get going!
Alright, repeat after me: "I AM NOT A PORN STAR."
Most of us learn about how to have sex from watching porn. The problem with that is PORN ISN'T REAL LIFE. In real life you have to prepare your bottom for sex. You can't just let him slam his cock up in there, or the two of you may just end up in the emergency room with an embarrassing story for the doc. You need communicate with him and let him know what feels good, so you both have a good time
You definitely need to take your time and get your asshole to relax before you let him go inside.
Start by having your top massage your hole with a well lubricated finger, and when you're good and ready, let him gently slide one finger up inside.
If you're having trouble taking his finger, have him pull out and wait a couple minutes and try again. You can bear down a little and try and push your hole out, and that actually will help you relax and let him get inside.
After he gets one finger in, and it feels good with him sliding it in and out, you can add a second finger. Usually prepping with 2 fingers is enough before you let him side his well lubricated condom-clad cock inside--if he's a really big you may need to have him do a 3rd finger first.
Make sure his finger nails are cut short so there's no sharp edges!
If you take your time and get yourself to relax and breathe, at the beginning ,you'll have a lot more fun later when things really get going.
Now, as for prepping yourself before sex, you're going to want to try and make sure things are nice and clean up in there. Between bowel movements, your rectum is actually pretty clean and empty, but you may want to rinse up in there a little just to make sure. The best way to do this is with plain old lukewarm water (not hot, not cold). No soap, no chemicals, nothing that might irritate your asshole...just WATER. Fill the enema bulb with lukewarm water put some condom safe lube on the tip and GENTLY insert. Squeeze the water into your rectum, hold it in for a few seconds and empty the water in the toilet. Since there's no one-way valve on a bulb syringe, be sure to remove the tip before releasing the bulb or you may suck water from your rectum back into the bulb. Repeat several times until the water comes out clear. When you’re done, wash the bulb, the tip and your hands with warm water and soap.
If you're a bottom you definitely want to eat a nice high fiber diet (fruits, veggies, whole grains--natural fiber supplements if you need them) and drink plenty of water, so you're nice and regular. You don't want to be all stopped up when the mood strikes!
